What is trauma?
Trauma can occur with any experience that overwhelms your ability to cope.
Neuroscientists agree with the definition that childhood trauma is caused by any event that feels life-threatening in an age-appropriate way, and causes more emotion than a person can handle, due to intense feelings of fear or powerlessness.
What is traumatic for a child may seem of no real significance to an adult, and may even appear to be ‘harmless.’ What is life-threatening to a baby is not an issue for an older child.
The effects of childhood trauma are as physical – trauma physically affects the way the brain develops.
In the same way our lungs affect our ability to breathe, our brain affects our ability to process information, and that impacts on our emotional wellbeing and our behaviour.
What are the signs and symptoms of trauma?
If you’ve experienced trauma, you may be experiencing one or several of these symptoms:
- Feeling unsafe at night
- Poor sleep (hard to go to sleep, stay asleep or wake up) wanting to sleep too much, nightmares
- Anxiety, depression
- Feelings of guilt, self-blame, shame
- Addictions – alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, workaholism, excessive spending, people pleasing, perfectionism, obsessive and compulsive behaviours
- Flashbacks, fearfulness, panic attacks
- Spontaneous crying, despair and hopelessness
- Irritability, anger and resentment
- Emotional numbness
- Self-destructive and impulsive behaviour
- Disconnection or co-dependency in relationships
- Low self-esteem
- Self-harm and/or eating disorders
- Risky behaviours, trouble with the law
- Decreased ability to concentrate, memory lapses, difficulty making decisions, feeling overwhelmed
How do I know if I have experienced childhood trauma?
There are many forms of trauma which impact on the development of the brain in childhood and adolescence. Some examples of traumatic events include abandonment or forced separation from a primary caregiver, divorce, neglect, bullying, death of a parent or sibling, abuse including verbal, emotional, sexual, physical, spiritual and ritual abuse, witnessing violence and serious childhood illness or accidents.
The past is not something we can simply “get over” or just “forget”
- but we can heal, we just need to learn how.
What causes childhood trauma?
Childhood trauma occurs when the child has no way to process the overwhelming fear and emotion of their experience.
As children depend on adults for their survival, you may have experienced childhood trauma if someone in your family were affected by alcoholism, addiction, mental or physical illness or if they experienced significant loss such as divorce, death, loss or hardship, domestic violence or endured any type of abuse.
The risk of traumatisation is increased when after having an overwhelming experience the child is not met with empathy to help process the fear and return to a safe place, when a caregiver is unable to provide support or safety, or is themselves the threat to the child.
Childhood trauma can be caused by a one-off event or can be ongoing in nature. No matter what your story is, if you feel events from your childhood might be causing problems in your life, you are not alone.
You can heal for life
People who have experienced childhood trauma may experience feelings and act in ways that they can’t understand or control, even as adults.
That’s because trauma that occurs during childhood physically affects the way our brain develops; which impacts how we think, how we process emotions, and our behaviour. It also impacts our ability to form healthy boundaries and relationships in adulthood.
The good news is that your brain is plastic and changeable, so you can heal and take control of your life again.
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