Why refer to our programs?
What do guests achieve at Heal For Life?
After our programs, health professionals report their clients are more receptive and motivated to change their behaviour.
Every program is structured to help our guests achieve clear objectives. By the end of the program, we hope our guests will be able to:
- Find and establish a safe place, either in reality or in their imagination.
- Recognise the importance of feeling safe.
- Be in touch with their ‘inner child’ or inner self and recognise the importance of this relationship for their own healing.
- Love, re-parent and re-empower their victim ‘inner child’.
- Demonstrate by the way they speak and act that they are beginning to love themselves.
- Actively engage in, and take responsibility for, their own journey of healing.
- Actively counteract feelings of shame or guilt by fully appreciating that childhood abuse was not their fault.
- Use knowledge of the effects of trauma on the brain to explain how the changes in their own developing brain have affected their emotional and behavioural patterns.
- Use knowledge of their attachment style in childhood to understand and begin to change their current relationships with others.
- Demonstrate developing skills in the use of new tools that can help when in crisis or when entering a challenging situation.
- Demonstrate increasing self responsibility in daily living which shows respect for the interconnectedness between physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health.
- Apply the principles of Transactional Analysis so as to improve relationship with self and to counteract negative parental messages learned in childhood.
- Continue to practice setting appropriate boundaries with self and others.
- Feel confident to apply what they have learned during the healing week to their situation when they get home or their day to day living.
- Laugh more often and find more joy in living.
Our Philosophy of Healing
Heal For Life believes that every person has the innate ability to heal from childhood trauma and abuse.
- Our innovative healing programs are based on the latest neuroscience research, combined with our own anecdotal and intuitive knowledge. All who devised the program are also survivors of childhood trauma and child abuse.
- We consider it essential for each person to be in control of their own healing journey, as each person knows best what they need to do in order to heal.
- We see healing as holistic i.e. involving body, mind and spirit.
- We believe feeling loved accepted and validated is essential for a person to heal.
- We believe that those of us who have suffered child abuse or childhood trauma are the most able to understand and help others to heal.
- All people, regardless of race, religion, gender, culture or sexual preference have the right to heal.
Strategies for Healing Programs
We role model and share practical strategies guests need to continue their healing journey at home.
The following strategies are used in the delivery of our programs:
- Educate guests as to the importance of safety and of having a safe place.
- Provide the resources for creative expression to allow guests to connect with the right side of brain e.g. use non-dominant hand to paint, work with clay.
- Help guests to connect with their ‘inner child’ via visualisations.
- Explain to guests in each workshop the importance of loving the ‘inner child’. Let the guests discover for themselves what happens when they give time and love to their ‘inner child’.
- Ensure the community life aspect of the program is functional and non-abusive.
- Empower the guests by encouraging them to make their own decisions in relation to healing and future action.
- Active listening.
- Explain fully to the guests why children cannot be responsible for what happens to them.
- Teach attachment theory to the guests so they can understand their relationship with others.
- Teach the effects of trauma on the brain so the guests can understand themselves.
- Teach tools so the guests can know how to help themselves when in crisis.
- Do daily labour so the guests can learn how to work regardless of feelings and so they can recognise any dysfunctional attitudes towards work which may impede them in life.
- Teach the guests Transactional Analysis so they can understand themselves and others, and understand how their childhood has affected their attitude towards themselves and others.
- Explain boundaries every day and revise on Friday so guests can learn the importance of boundaries in every aspect of their lives.
- Facilitators and volunteers role model behaving in a loving manner towards each other and so demonstrate by action self-love.
- Ensure the support team look after themselves too, nurture themselves and take time off to self-care when allocated.
Our counsellors can provide assistance to support your referral to our programs.