"Through healing I've learnt the abuse was never my fault. I was just a child; innocent in every way"
"Don't be ashamed to ask for help. It takes amazing courage and we do deserve all the help we can get"
"Drugs, alcohol, cutting, starving, purging, suicide attempts, serious mental health issues, years of hospitalisation, such extreme self-hate and loathing. No one ever thought it would end. I was told I'd never get any better. I felt I was a waste of time, space and energy.... But today I now know different. I am much stronger than I or anyone ever thought. All I needed to begin to see it was somewhere that could offer me support, understanding, love, non-judgement, a safe place to feel and a way through the pain. This is what the Heal For Life Foundation offers. Nothing can ever change what I've been through but now I know I can change who I become."
"I know that with my extreme determination and drive, combined with the priceless lessons I have acquired here, I can conquer any mountain"
"Eva House is the best thing that ever happened to me. If it wasn't for the beautiful, caring, loving people here I honestly wouldn't be here today to enjoy life"
"I was in and out of hospital for over three years dealing with the psychological effects that my abuse was having on me. I was ready to give up because nothing was helping me and nobody understood. But then I found Heal for Life Foundation. By the end of the program I had dreams and wanted to live again. The change in me was unbelievable."
"This seemed to be what I was searching for; a place where it was OK to feel how I felt, get angry, cry, say what I wanted without fear. I began to understand myself and my worth and in turn I was understood and loved."
"I am a survivor of child abuse and can say I have had my life turned upside down because of how much pain I kept inside of me for so long. I was so misunderstood and turned to many different coping mechanisms during my struggle; it was the only way I knew how to survive. No body seemed to understand. I spent years holding onto my feelings of anger, sadness, betrayal, shame, isolation and fear. No one could help me.... When I finally discovered Heal for Life Foundation I had almost totally gave in to the nightmares of my past and the damaging effects it was having on me. One more try I said to myself....and I am so glad I found the strength to do it. At Eva House I wasn't looked at like I was someone who was crazy or a freak. I wasn't fed medication to make me better and wasn't told to "get over it". It made so much difference being supported by other survivors who understood why I was the way I was. They were proof that it was possible to change your life around. They actually cared about me and my healing. I was given the respect and validation I had never had before and the information I got from the workshops was invaluable. Heal for Life Foundation is such a beautiful peaceful place filled with so much love and hope. I remember at the end of my program I was crying because I wanted to live and I believed that it was possible. I hadn't felt that in such a long time. Today I am becoming someone who I never could have imagined was possible. And I owe that to the help of Heal for Life Foundation. If it wasn't for all the support and encouragement I received there, I would sadly have to say that I probably wouldn't be here today. Yes, it was scary and hard work (it still is) but what other choice did I have? I wasn't going to let my past defeat me."
"The traumatic and abusive experiences of childhood can't be forgotten. They can't be cut out with a razor, they can't be washed away with a bottle of vodka, they can't be dulled with medication, can't be minimized, ignored, repressed or suppressed by anything. I know because I wasted years trying to do just that. Trying desperately and failing spectacularly. I couldn't make any of it stop, not the feelings of hatred and despair, not the nightmares and flashbacks, not the constant thoughts of if this is life, I don't want it anymore. When I turned eighteen and realised that finally being considered an adult solved none of my problems I came to Eva House as a last resort. I had every intention of committing suicide at the end of the program if nothing changed. Clearly, I did not kill myself. Because at the end of the program I had changed. I could bore you with the details of my transformation but all the words in the world couldn't explain how I benefited from Eva House. It's such a personal experience and different for everyone. All I can say is that I stopped being a victim of child abuse and became a survivor."